Archive

Posts Tagged ‘Love’

Getting Off Track, To Get On Course

November 28, 2010 Leave a comment

You’ve decided to enter for a race. You train hard to build your endurance and strength. You test yourself, and you feel ready for the competition/race that you entered. Prior to the race, after all of your training, you decide to take a course of action, and select your team that you feel is meant to help you achieve the goal of winning in that competition.

The team is doing great, accomplishing all tasks that are given. Days/weeks pass in the competition, and things become more and more challenging, more and more taxing on the team’s morale, (and the leader’s morale). The competition comes nearing the final days, and the team is not seeing hope in winning the race….is not seeing it possible to command “success,” towards the task that they all agreed to accomplish together….what does someone do when they see the team is losing hope? What does someone do when they see the team has lost faith in their leader??? When they see that the track towards their goal seems less and less achievable?

When you have a team. Every member of that team matters…no matter how small, or how big their role. If you have even one member of a, hundred man team, leave, and you cannot find an adequate replacement…then guess what…you are out of the race!!!

Please know that it doesn’t mean that you are a loser…it just means, that you have to learn from your mistakes, and better prepare for the next time that you decide to enter a race.

How does this have to do with getting off track to get on course???

When you lose a race, that means that you could not remain on track to complete the competition that you had entered. Yes, you lost the race/competition…but what occurs, is a beautiful lesson of what’s required of you in order to enter a competition, and win a race.

Preparation is everything, both for a team, and especially a leader. To be a leader means more than what anyone ever expects. Even current leaders of our time could take 5 mins to tell you how much they did not expect so much would be required of them to lead a successful team….this is in no way to excuse leaders for their decision making, but it is simply to share a sliver of the perspective from a leader.

A leader tries their best to remain on track to bring their team towards success.

Even if the team doesn’t win that competition, or that race…what makes a leader, and a team successful…is that they try, try again. If the team disbands, then the leader must re-group with a new team.

Even if the team cannot remain on track, winning the competition or the race. It is through these learning lessons that the team re-groups, or the leader thinks of a new method to get back on course.

Continue walking on the path that you live…even if you get off track, and people view you differently.

Never give up, and continue to stay strong with your beliefs, so that you can get back on course with your beliefs, your values, your life.

Maybe you have to decide to enter a new competition so that you can get back on course? You wont know until you believe in yourself, and try. Trying a new competition doesn’t mean that you give up…make sure that you stay focused to your core intention(s), as to why you entered the “race.”

I believe in you. Keep up the good work, even if people criticize you!

-III

 

Advertisements

Where Have You Been?…The Process It Took To Get Out Of My Depression.

August 29, 2010 8 comments

I always have a bit of sadness in my heart whenever I reach the end of a really good book. When I finish it, I reminisce of the climaxes of the book, the wonderful characters that I got to meet along the way, and most importantly, how the story of the book had affected my life and influenced a new perspective to look at life. Of course not all books are like that, but you know which books that I am referring to. These types of books symbolize life and the struggles that we go through.

I myself have currently reached the end of a particular chapter in my personal life, and I want to share with you about this chapter of my life, in hopes that it will inspire you, and motivate you in your personal life.

About five or six months ago I made it my life mission to make as many new friends as possible. I didn’t care where life would take me, didn’t care how little sleep that I got, nor did I care how much money would be spent. I was determined to meet as many good-hearted people as the world would allow me to. I wanted to meet these people so that they would know that there is one more good-hearted person in this world to add to their circle.

New York gives a double-edged impression. One impression is that it’s full of the energy of driven people, who are here to live a better life and make their dreams come true. The other impression is that you must step on people to get to “the top.” “The Top,” is imaginary…opportunities, and success in this city, (and this world), are endless, so to think that you need the mindset to manipulate, hurt, or destroy people to get somewhere in this life is to have the mindset of a fool.

Some of you may know that I have a beautiful young daughter who is safely loved in Korea with her mother. This was, (and still is), a very hard challenge for me, as I am missing out on my daughter, Lydia, growing up. Understand that I am sharing this with you for two important reasons. One reason is for a healing process for myself, as this is a part of my reality. The second, and most important reason is to share with people who are currently suffering and enduring, so that way they know that IT IS possible to move on, and YOU WILL move on.

I went through a serious depression for about five or six months, (honestly, it was as I was meeting everyone), but during that time frame, I learned many things about myself and about my life, (and about the lives of those beautiful people who I have met). I realized that I could not stay depressed, and I had to take steps to move on and continue with life. Without my faith in God, and the love and support from my family and friends, I would have never made it out of that depression successfully. *”Successfully,” means not giving up…It does not mean “not making mistakes.” (Be prepared to make many mistakes).

This traumatizing event made me realize how truly import a support circle really is. This is what made me decide to go out and make friends. So again this brings me back to where I made it my life mission to make as many new friends as possible. I didn’t care where life would take me, didn’t care how little sleep that I got, nor did I care how much money would be spent. I was determined to meet as many good-hearted people as the world would allow me to.

The people that I have met are truly amazing. And the people who I have known, our love for each other grew ever stronger. The amount of personality, gifts, and talents that they have are so awe-inspiring! Everyone who I knew and had met, the amount of love, loyalty, and compassion that, is in their hearts, motivates me everyday to be just as good of a friend, if not more! I knew that there were good-hearted people in New York… I just had to go out and find them.

In appreciation to all of my family and friends who have helped me get through my trials and tribulations, I have made a slide show, (My heartfelt apologies, but I don’t have photos of all of the friends that I have met along the way). To all of those that are reading this blog, remember, it is love that makes this world go round. It is love for yourself and love for others, is what will help you see through the hardships in life. Go outside your comfort zone and make friends, then welcome them into your family, it will forever change your perspective on life, and you will Never EVER regret it! 🙂

Remember: You are not alone in this world. I am here with you.

-III

*The song that is being played is titled “After Hanabi” (means fireworks in Japanese). This track is by my favorite Japanese hip-hop producer, who had recently passed away this year, Nujabes. RIP

Love Is The Greatest

February 14, 2010 7 comments

If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophesy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Prophesy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless.

When I was a child, I spoke, thought, and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything in perfect clarity. All that I know is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me completely.

Three things will last forever-faith, hope, and love-and the greatest of these is love. -1 Corinthians 13:1-13

*How you can relate this passage to your life and fitness;

Our mind, body, and spirit endure a lot of abuse throughout the days with the challenges of life that we face. Examples such as stress, pollution, negative thoughts & beliefs, life, death, suffering, abuse in the form of alcohol or other substances.

The list can go on forever, and a way to see clearly amongst all of these things that cloud our feelings, emotions and beliefs seems impossible. It all starts with loving yourself in a non-selfish way. Examples such as listening to your body when it’s sick or tired. Granted, maybe you can’t stop working, but you can provide your body the proper nutrients and vitamins so that it can continue if you cannot step away from your tasks. Stay away from negative influences that will distract you from your priorities. Listen to music that will inspire you and motivate you to continue to endure. When your work is done, even if you cannot sleep, rest your eyes and mind, by writing to yourself of what you are most grateful for, this can put your mind at a far greater state of peace than just tossing and turning about tomorrow’s worries. When you wake up in the morning, start your day by saying to yourself “thank you” of what you wrote down the night before.

Give it time, and watch how loving yourself in a non-selfish way will spread in every other activity that you partake in. It’s like watching a beautiful flower grow right in front of your eyes. It will not be easy, but it will be beautiful. Know that I write these words not to try to convert you, but to help maintain a balance in fitness of the spirit, mind & body.  Enjoy today’s blog!

-III

Categories: Feb '10 Blog Tags: , , , , ,

When Life Gets Tough…

December 6, 2009 3 comments

During the holidays it’s common to see people writing about what they’re thankful for and why they’re excited about the holidays, reminiscing of holiday memories.

The same way that these people cause themselves to feel feelings of joy, by thinking of positive experiences of the past, is the same way that people cause themselves to feel feelings of sadness, stress, or hurt, by thinking of negative experiences of the past.

NOTE! I am in no way disregarding of anyone’s experiences, positive or negative. You may have had an experience of your past that is truly traumatizing, that I may never be able to understand, and for this to have happened to you, I am truly sorry.

What today’s blog is about, is choices, and how we can improve our chances of making the best choice for us. All of us are born of different paths and opportunities, but all of us are given the opportunity to make the best choice of what is given in our life.

To give an example, I’ll share with you why I love martial arts so much. Martial arts focuses on the discipline of beliefs, not just self-defense. If you discipline yourself to follow a certain set of beliefs, you will get far in life (be careful, it works for negative beliefs too, i.e. any dictator). I decided to strive to discipline myself on making the choice to try to live by the golden rule; “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

For those of you that strive to live by this rule, people that also follow it, will notice you. For those that do not follow it, they too will notice you, (Don’t worry about the one’s that don’t follow it, even if they are of blood). For those people that you meet, who do follow it, surround yourself with them. Make good, strong lasting relationships, with these people, for when life gets tough, you will have these kind of people to rely on.

Now ask yourself. Do you lie to people constantly?  Do you cheat people out of what they deserve?  Do you think that you surround yourself with people that will remain honest and would not cheat you? That, when life gets tough, you will be surrounded with people like you? Wanna surround yourself with good people? Strive to live a good life, with good morals, and I promise that you will see people with lacking morals a mile away (with “banners and flags” on them to warn you). To live a life of good morals and beliefs is the road less traveled.

When life gets tough, what choices do you make to survive?

Here’s an answer from one of the greatest motivational speakers and entrepreneurs of our time; “and I kept the faith. See that’s the deal. Keep the faith with your family. Fight like crazy, and keep faith. Fight the enemy and keep faith. Fight illness and keep faith!” –Jim Rohn RIP 12-5-09

-III